My Ex
L: I read your post about your first boyfriend and was really touched, that was beautiful! I was wondering if your ex husband used to cross dress, and did you help him explore his fetish? I can't imagine why he would possibly leave you Miss Teresa.
: First of all, I left him!
When I thought about your question I started to laugh, but it really was very far from a funny situation. The answer is no-never-not in a million years.
When I first started dating, I would look for a person who was honest with himself and with others. Someone who wasn't caught up in trying to be a tough guy, or a player, or something he thought he should be, either because of his upbringing or society. At the same time I was fighting my attraction to women because I felt that that it wasn't the way I should be. So it was wrong from the beginning.
I ended up doing what a lot of confused people do, and chose someone who was actually the opposite of what I was really looking for and needed. My ex husband is a former marine, a body builder, and a scum bag. O0ps, I told myself I wasn't going to go there, but the hell with it. Yes, it was my fault for marrying someone that I knew wasn't right for me in so many ways, but as time went by I saw sides of him that I never could have imagined.
I think I was attracted to my first boyfriend because he was a wonderful person. Caring, considerate, loyal, and he just happened to like to crossdress. That was his fetish, and at the time I thought it was, lets say-unusual. But that wasn't who he was. He wasn't just a man in women's clothes. He was my friend and lover and confidant. Looking back on those days I realize that he taught me the most valuable thing that anyone ever has. That a person is more than the sum of their parts. A person is not only their body, job, career, car, and all the other things we associate someone with, but a complete human being, made up of emotions, feelings, and attitudes towards other people and the world.
Now that I'm divorced and live with my girlfriend, I see how true this is every day. I love someone for who they are and not what they are. Sure, she's incredibly attractive, smart, wealthy, and an animal in bed, but that's just a coincidence. (Isn't is honey?)
Dress my ex? Surely you jest!
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